I didn't say you didn't know what you're talking about, Rose.  I should have clarified that I'm speaking from my experience.  In my experience, floral essences have helped when my emotions are especially overwhelming, but they don't take care of chronic despair.  Medication was better for evening it out overall, when I needed that.

And I'm not saying medication will treat the root causes of depression either, or that it's necessarily the right answer.  "Something else" could be therapy, maybe some kinds of body work--with or without medication.  What's right for who when is widely varied.

^ Good for you Kristina!

Good luck with everything, I really hope you get out of your "emotional slump" soon, I'm sure you're looking forward to it too.

It will all work out, you'll see 

^ Good for you! Have a great time

Thankyou! Something crazy actually happened. Nathan called me up and told me that he was coming to Columbus, GA (where I live) the next day and that he already bought tickets!! I started freaking out!! He asked me to marry him and move back to Fargo with him. Mind you..he has a girlfriend in Virginia (kaitlin as some of you may know her as) And he's telling me he's coming here. Recently, about 3 weeks ago..I met this guy Jeff at a party and we REALLY hit it off. (we are actually dating now) And I thought..wow Nate and I don't have the best track record but it would be amazing to see him once again. But if I did..I would completely lose Jeff. Well, it was probably the biggest decision I've ever made in my life so far and I rejected Nathan and stayed with Jeff. I called Kaitlin and nathan and told nate to change his ticket to Virginia to go visit his actual girlfriend. He did and today he is going back home to fargo. I'll admit I was slightly (or alot..) upset and sad that I didnt see him. But I think i made the right choice. I still miss him and we are not talking. It's been a week and I am still feeling sad about it. Jeff knows about this and is doing everything he can to make it better. I hope that one day me and nate can be friends but it's certainly not anytime soon

so that's my little story of what's happened over the past 2 weeks. Do you guys think I handled it alright?

Yes! And because I don't want this to happen to anyone else. I called this girl and told her what happened. She's still with him to this day and refuses to believe me. At least I tried to warn her.

^ Very true.

It's human nature to not believe what the "other woman" is telling you.  When and if it ends, she'll probably be more inclined to believe what you're saying.

Yes. But the thing is. I even had proof for her. I sent her text messages and conversations we were having. And I told her straight up "Honey, You deserve to be with someone who picks you FIRST, and Nathan is picking you second, I don't want Nathan, I have a boyfriend, so I"m only trying to be help you out." But she will learn in time that it was true. Actually what's funny is that everytime Nathan switched from me to her (which happened alot), I'd tell her "Kaitlin, just wait a couple of days and he's going to crawl back to me..just wait" And she's get all snappy and be like whatever. And EVERY SINGLE TIME, it would happen. So this last time I told her..think about what happened everytime I warned you about it...it happened and you were hurt.

Yeah. I cut off contact with both of them.

So he breaks up with her and calls me... Oh god. Now she's calling me on the phone crying. I don't even want to talk to either. Him I know I shouldn't talk to. But what about her?

Yay or Nay?

In a situation like that, it's worth asking yourself why, over and over like a two-year-old.

"I don't want to talk to her."

"Why?"

Then to whatever pops into your head next, ask why. And why to the answer, and why to the next answer, until you understand completely.

I once tried that when I had just met a new roommate, who was the last of several to move in. My first reaction was to dislike her, though there was no clear reason. I asked myself why... and realized that what I didn't like was the feeling that I was being crowded by so many people; it was starting to feel like I had no space of my own. So it wasn't her I didn't like, it was what she represented for me right at that moment. As things turned out, I really did like her once I realized that feeling wasn't about her.

^ Just tell him you ARE home and it's time for him to leave it be.

Happy to hear you're doing well and always happy to help

^ I think now is a good time to start ignoring any and all messages from him.  What could he possibly have to say to you that you want to hear?

And congrats on your new relationship- it sounds like you have a good guy.